There are so many misconceptions and negative portrayals of bullying in the media. While this is not an issue that is unique to our society, it is one that has become so prevalent as of late. With the rise in popularity of YA/teen novels, films, and television series there has been speculation about what drives certain characters to commit acts of such aggression. If you’ve ever seen a depiction like this on screen, then chances are it was the result of promoting a stereotypical image of those who have been bullied growing up. The idea that those who have been victimized by others are inherently evil has led to a culture where people feel justified in shaming people for their actions and making fun of them for having feelings or vulnerabilities. This mindset cannot be accepted under any circumstances because it leads innocent people to self-harm or commit suicide if they continue to have negative feelings towards themselves due to these experiences later in life. Let’s take a look at some common misconceptions surrounding the subject and how they impact real people we may see every day…
Everyone who’s been bullied is mean and violent
Yes, there are bullies out there who are mean and violent, but this is not typical of all those who have been bullied. The largest segment of people who have been bullied are those who feel ashamed for what they have done or how they acted as a result of being bullied. These types of individuals often experience feelings of guilt and embarrassment that lead them to disconnect from society. There has also been an increase in the number of people feeling trapped by these negative emotions. Often times, it becomes too hard to maintain jobs, relationships or personal health due to continual bullying experiences.
Bullies are never the ones who get bullied first and they shouldn’t be shamed for it.
Bullies are not the ones who get bullied first and they should be left alone. Most often, this is not an accurate assumption in many cases. Chances are it isn’t necessarily the case when you meet an individual who has been bullied before. It can also happen to people without being a bully themselves. There are many circumstances that lead people to being bullied at some point in their lives and the consequences can be severe for those who have experienced such situations.
Many victims of bullying do not experience any actual physical bullying like someone pushing them or hitting them. Instead, they experience emotional abuse that targets their mental wellbeing and leaves lasting scars on their psyche forevermore. This fear of rejection from friends, peers, family, society, or even themselves drove these individuals to self-harm or commit suicide later in life as a result of these experiences. Some people don’t ever come out of this spiral and become withdrawn from everyone around them due to how much pain they caused themselves physically and emotionally during adolescence when they were constantly made fun of by others around them.
People who have been bullied should simply ask for help so they can “grow a backbone.”
This is one of the most common misconceptions I hear when people are discussing this issue. It is absolutely never okay for someone to bully others and it is also never okay for someone to make fun of them or disrespect them. But it’s not always easy to ask for help or even know where to start. And oftentimes, asking for help can lead to even more bullying because those who are not being bullied may see that their peers need help and use their power to bully those who do – like what happened with Amanda Todd.
In reality, it takes a lot of courage and strength to reach out for help in order to regain control over your life. If you feel like you need the help, then please seek out the resources available so you can get the support you need.
Don’t EVER bully! It won’t ever get you anywhere in life.
Bullying has been a big topic of debate in recent years. There are many different opinions on whether bullying is necessary or not. Most people agree that the majority of cases where bullies act out, it is due to emotional instability and anger issues rather than any sort of physical strength or skill. Bullies can be made out to be this terrible creature who will destroy you in some way and make your life a living hell, but the truth is much more complex when looked at from a psychological perspective.
Many people don’t believe that bullying can ever get them anywhere because they equate it to violence, which is always bad. But what if we told you that the majority of those who bully have an underlying reason for their actions? For example, someone who has been bullied throughout their entire childhood may feel like they need to show themselves as superior by proving they are stronger than others…
The only way to fight bullying is by ignoring it or talking about it to your friends.
This is an incredibly dangerous and false message that can lead to some serious consequences. Ignoring bullying will not help anyone, especially the victim of the bullying. It is important for people to speak out about their experiences so that they don’t become a statistic. If you are aware of someone being bullied, then you need to make them feel safe and supported. This means talking to them and helping them cope with the situation by listening to their feelings. If you see something happening in public, take action! A simple “Hey, stop it!” could prevent a tragedy from happening or relieve some tension in the moment. You don’t have to be confrontational; just having presence can make a difference in someone else’s life or at least give them hope that there are friends and allies out there who care about them.
If you are being bullied, you must fight back with strength and don’t let them disrespect you.
This is the mindset that many adults have about bullying and it is not only ignorant, but dangerous. This idea tells children that in order to win a fight with someone, they must act aggressively and then resort to physical violence. This not only pushes children away from telling adults about their experiences of bullying but also prevents them from seeking help. The message that this sends to these children is that they are alone in their fight against bullying.
At the end of the day, everyone deserves respect no matter their struggle or experience.
One misconception that I see a lot is that those who bully others are just misunderstood and don’t know any better. This is not true at all. There are many factors that go into making someone feel the need to bully someone else. In most cases, it has nothing to do with being misunderstood and everything to do with wanting power and control over somebody else. At the end of the day, everyone deserves respect no matter what their struggle or experience may be.
The more we can spread this message, the more likely people will stop bullying others and start accepting one another for who they are.